Questions for couples to ask after a fight

After a fight, the goal isn't to win the rematch: it's to understand what happened. These questions help you talk about what each of you needed in the moment and what you'll try next time. Ask them once you've both calmed down.

1. 1.What did you need from me in that moment?
2. 2.What did you think I meant?
3. 3.What did I say that landed harder than I meant?
4. 4.What can we do differently next time?